Life is a gamble in which we don’t get to deal the cards, but nevertheless obligated to play them to the best of our ability. The wager with the highest stakes of all is with our hearts. Where do we learn to do this? How do we balance the risk of making mistakes against the certainty of aloneness if we play it safe? Nowhere in our lives are the extremes of cynicism on one hand and foolhardiness on the other so dangerous. Unlike most games, the outcome of this one is meant to reward everyone concerned. If we play as if this is a competition, we will lose. And yet, how do we determine that the other person shares a cooperative vision?

Here is where we must accept risk, sometimes a lot of it, in order to win. In no other activity do we expect to be skilled from the outset. Everyone accepts the idea of a learning curve accompanied by sometimes painful mistakes before we become adept. No one would expect to become good at skiing without falling down. And yet many people are surprised at the hurt that routinely accompanies our efforts to find someone worthy of our love.

To take the risks necessary to achieve this goal is an act of courage. To refuse to take them, to protect our hearts against all loss, is an act of despair.

Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart
By Gordon Livingston, M.D.

just wanted to share that.

on an entirely different note


If you don't know what to say you can do that meme:
The problem with LiveJournal:
We all think we are so close, but really, we know nothing about each other. So I want you to ask me something you think you should know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Ask away. Then post this in your LJ and find out what people don't know about you!

then again you can just do it in comment form XD

ETA: tempura03  DON'T YOU DARE. NOR WILL YOU TELL PEOPLE ABOUT THAT INCIDENT. CRAPO. KAINIS KA TALAGA.